Experience versus time
One of the keys to long-term success is knowing when to say no. When you lack experience that you need, saying yes to every opportunity makes sense. The experience you gain is worth more than your time. Being very choosy might prevent you from making progress.
Sooner or later, the balance shifts. You’ve done enough to be considered experienced and it’s no longer sensible to say yes to every opportunity. Your time is now more valuable than experience and every commitment you make leaves you unavailable for something else. Being very choosy might be exactly what you need make progress.
How do you decide when to take every opportunity and when to say no?
Hopefully, my questions cause you to reflect on your own thinking, relationships or choices. Maybe I even inspire you to make positive changes.
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