Coach the person
I once thought someone was un-coachable if they repeatedly made the same mistakes and didn’t respond to my feedback. I always wondered, “Why keep doing the same thing when it almost never works?” I realize now that I was the problem. I didn’t give the right feedback, I needed to deliver it differently or they did not see me as their coach.
The mistake I made was coaching the behavior instead of the person. The value of coaching is in the improvement to which it leads. For lasting improvement, empower the person to make different choices or help them decide they will do things differently.
Which will last longer?
- My coach says I can’t eat bread.
- I don’t eat bread, whole food is so much better for me.
How do you persuade other people (or yourself) to make better choices?
Hopefully, my questions cause you to reflect on your own thinking, relationships or choices. Maybe I even inspire you to make positive changes.
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