Ask for and accept help
I am all for asking for help when I need it. At the same time, I sometimes resist help if I didn’t ask for it. I like to believe I am self-sufficient and sometimes take unsolicited help as a judgment of my competence. When I stop to think about it, people offering help are probably not passing judgment. From now on, I will focus on their good intentions instead of my own insecurity.
Trish readily accepts help, yet she resists asking for it. Perhaps she believes she should get everything done even when her task list is impossible for one person. I believe that none of us can get everything done on our own and getting help is a good thing. I suggested that she should go ahead and ask for help more often. It might not be as easy as it sounds. When it comes to judging ourselves harshly, habits are hard to break.
How willing are you to ask for and accept help?
Hopefully, my questions cause you to reflect on your own thinking, relationships or choices. Maybe I even inspire you to make positive changes.
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